Archives for February 2012

Fellowship structures need to change

Let’s start with the definition of the word fellowship according to the Oxford English Dictionary.

fel·low·ship n.

1.a. The condition of sharing similar interests, ideals, or experiences, as by reason of profession, religion, or nationality. b. The companionship of individuals in a congenial atmosphere and on equal terms.

2. A close association of friends or equals sharing similar interests.

3. Friendship; comradeship.

4.a. The financial grant made to a fellow in a college or university.b. The status of having been awarded such a grant. c. A foundation established for the awarding of such a grant

There are large-scale myths that surround how people think about themselves and their work when applying to fellowships. Most major award structures are set up to reward individuals. Some of the most famous fellowships: MacArthur Genius Grant Winner, Rhodes scholars, and  TED fellows all award one single person. Most of the time, these individuals were not alone in their ground-breaking work. They teamed up with many others along the way, partnering and collaborating to come up with great ideas. The word fellowship embodies this comradeship, yet the awards structure ends up creating a individualistic view of accomplishments.

In the workplace, company’s evaluation and promotion practices encourage an assumption that employee’s time is dedicated to a company. Yet time is not infinite, it is scarce and shared across employees.

What if there were more fellowships that really promoted and incentivized team building? How do we change the award system and build the awareness that we need help and to acknowledge others? What if this shift could promote the collaborative leadership to design the most important work of our time?

Get over being perfect

As I sat on my computer trying to write my blog post for today, I kept blanking and freezing, avoiding getting started because I thought it wouldn’t be good enough. Then I realized I had my whole orientation wrong and needed to stop trying to be perfect. It’s about getting better every day. I seek to dream, innovate, and develop world-changing ideas. So I need to do what I am most fearful to do and live my experiments out day by day. That’s how we improve: in small daily increments.

And of course, I may fail at times. Each failure will become a laboratory for the next lesson. When I hit failure, I can analyze what went wrong, figure out the next option and go back to the field.

For every Steve Jobs, there are hundreds or thousands that fail in the tech industry. Same case with politicians or musicians that never receive the training they needed. What we haven’t looked at is all the people who failed and weren’t born with Michael Jordan’s physical genius. They have learned to keep trying and adapting with new lessons for the future.

So what we need in next generation leadership is to tolerate failure, to tolerate despair, and to tolerate life. Get over being perfect, it’s about getting better everyday.

Let’s be honest about Davos

I’ve gotten a lot of praise, admiration, and high hopes of becoming a ‘power player’ for attending and speaking at the World Economic Forum 2012 at Davos last month. I am grateful for it, the 70 Global Shapers, all incredible millennial leaders, have been well-respected for their contribution to Davos this year.

Yet what I really want to share is that, for me, I have learned to embrace my losses as much as my opportunities in life. One year ago, I was completely burnt out and unsatisfied with my life, career goals, and physical energy. I took the time to reflect on what truly mattered, what I cared about and why, danced 3x a week, journaled and meditated. This inevitably made me a better person. When I started to show up as my full self, rather than running around chasing the work of others, opportunities came to me. I would say the real source of power was letting go: of expectations, of always having a set plan, and just being myself.  I went to Davos to share my thoughts with the world, from where I stood as a young woman. My biggest successes have been from ‘enabling myself’ not trying to save the world. That is real power, when we own our life and mindset, rather than solely attach ourselves to our accomplishments and awards.

So what was Davos like? Lets be honest: it’s the most exclusive event in the world. So when I, a visibly Indian-American young woman came to this event, no one was really talking to me at first. Everyone couldn’t wait to shake hands with Bill Gates, Arianna Huffington, and Sheryl Sandberg. So I learned to exercise my own version of power: asking questions.

In almost everything I went to I asked a question that related to my life and my generation. It unexpectedly brought people to me I wasn’t seeking out originally but became kindred spirits for the rest of my time there. That’s our real power: our curious mind. We don’t need to know it all, we need to start from where we are.

The challenge is that when you get to a position of power and authority, other people expect you to “be a certain way.” Yet I’m learning that I can constantly shape who I am for myself rather than rely on others to determine this for me.  This will be a challenge for all next generation leaders as we morph and grow.

Business schools don’t prepare women for leadership roles in the workplace

This post first appeared on Forbes.com

This week’s Sloan Women in Management Conference on ‘Innovating Through
Adversity’ poses tough questions about the systemic gender inequalities that still
exist in business today. Marissa Mayer of Google, Jennifer Siebel Newsom of Miss
Representation, and Fredericka Whitfield of CNN will take the stage to share their
insights on women’s advancement in business. Behind the scenes, a fantastic team
of ambitious MBA women are organizing the conference at one of the nation’s top
business schools.

But do business schools really prepare women for senior leadership roles with
companies?

As a graduate of Wharton’s undergraduate program and an MBA candidate at MIT’s
Sloan School of Management, I’d say no. Here’s why.

Business schools primarily think about female and male students as future
employees rather than as women and men with complex lives for whom
employment is a significant, but not the only, activity. If MBA programs truly want
to develop principled leaders, they need to address the different sets of concerns
students can expect to encounter in the classroom, as well as when they graduate
and enter the workforce.

Women in MBA programs often feel like they have to “do it all”, and that the
frequent tradeoffs inherent in a busy work and family life (often leading to a high
level of stress and anxiety) are something to be overcome, not managed. Imagine
the possibilities if business schools give the private concerns of their students a
genuine place in the planning of work through courses and programs on gender and
life issues, such as a talent management course for both men and women, a case
study in all leadership courses on the impact of diverse groups on career and home
dynamics, and continued support for gender-related conversations and discussions.

“The last frontier for women’s advancement at work is understanding how men
and women re-define roles at home,” says Anne Weisberg, head of Diversity
at Blackrock, a global financial management firm and author of Mass Career
Customization: Aligning the Workplace with Today’s Nontraditional Workforce. She

emphasizes that MBAs should be discussing life and home issues as part of the
planning of work at the business school level. Currently there is no place for these
issues, but these topics need to be integrated into the curriculum.

The after-effects are clear. According to Harvard Kennedy School Professors
Barbara Kellerman and Deborah Rhode in their book, Women and Leadership: State
of Play and Strategies for Change, “one in three women with MBAs are not working
full time, compared with one in twenty men. A large portion of these women do,
however, want to return to work, yet generally do not without significant career
costs and difficulties.” Both men and women need to be made aware of these costs
and difficulties starting in business school, they’re going to lose good employees and
face major transition costs.

Aside from future concerns for women, there are many areas in current business
school environments where women face different challenges than men do based
on age, participation, and who they consider role models. The implications of not
addressing gender-specific challenges in the workplace end up hurting both men
and women’s recognition of gender differences in leadership positions.

”On average, women are younger than men in top ten MBA programs,” says MIT
Sloan Dean David Schmittlein. “This may lead to a negative perception of their
experience in the business school environment.” What’s more, he cites research
that “has shown that women aren’t called to participate as proportionally as often in
the classroom. When women are called on, the next person is less inclined to build
on their comments.”

According to a study entitled Wives of the Organizations, by Leipzig Professor Anne
Huff, women tend to volunteer more often for maintenance-level roles such as note-
taking, opportunities that they may not get recognition for. Huff’s research shows
that gender is an area to be further investigated in MBA programs.

There are also clear differences for women in terms of role models and faculty at
business schools. “Some of the most well regarded and least well regarded faculty
are women,” says Schmittlein. Yet women still make up a much smaller proportion
of faculty across business schools.

While I believe hosting women in management conferences at the nation’s top
business programs is an important first step to building a female talent pool,
women senior leaders and business school leadership must recognize how gender
differences in business school play a major role in and out of the classroom as well
in future careers. In today’s age, this issue is not just for women, but is crucial for
both men and women to reach their individual and often shared potential in work
and life. There is a need for new dialogue across MBA programs that address how
gender plays a role in business school environments and subsequently in building a
pipeline of female leaders in companies and on boards.

The losses in leadership

After browsing all of the media Top 50 under 50Person of the Year, Most Powerful Women articles that rung in the new year, it was so easy for me to get sucked into the exciting thrill of being called a ‘leader’. The praise and recognition is sexy, appealing, and glamorous. Most of the ‘top picks’ of year-end media articles hold high levels of authority or power positions, run large companies or are heads of state.

Yet in truth, leadership is about mobilizing progress toward a collective problem, not holding a position of authority. It’s so easy to blur the lines between leadership and power. What the media leadership conversation fails to depict are the real challenges that make leaders who they are, and most importantly: the losses in leadership.

All next generation leaders face losses. In the business of leadership, we are in the business of sustaining loss. This involves the capacity to hold steady in chaos, to see anger with grace and to meet hatred with compassion. Leadership is about holding people through transitions, receiving anger or tears without backing away and renegotiating loyalties to focus on a collective problem.

We have all grown up with a set of loyalties to our professional and personal community and to prior generations. Our work NOW is to build leaders who are free who act independently and make a contribution to the world both as a creature of systems and as not entirely captured by those systems. A major piece of this is dealing with the losses we face when we step up to our real work in the world, own them, and make big changes in our lives.

Next time, you get praised as a leader, remember the challenge of the losses you faced, because that’s real leadership.