12 Things Great Leaders Always Do

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We all know them. That one person who is not just a great leader, but who also makes a lasting impact. We remember them, follow them, and reference their thinking long after our connection with them is over. 

What is it that makes such a great leader? What do they have that others don't? I've been lucky to meet many great leaders and discovered they all share these twelve characteristics. 

So, here are 12 things YOU can do to become a great leader:

1. Pick your fights. Don’t waste your resources. Its important to stand up for your ideals, but don’t keep fighting when its draining you and it doesn't really matter. 

2. Work with exceptional people. Everything is about benchmarking. If you bring a great group of people together, they will even become better by the benchmark they have within the group.

3. Don't let the world beat you down. The best characteristics of a leader are being optimistic and naive.

4. Decide quickly. A bad decision is better than no decision. We learn by doing, instead of inaction. 

5. When asked for advice, sometimes the best advice is to not to give any advice. Usually when others ask for your advice, they already know the solution, but they just need a bit of confidence or some coaching to get there.

6. Focus on the things you can control. Those who focus on the things they cannot control become cynical. Choose what you focus on by what you can control. 

7. Be vulnerable. In a recent TED Talk, shame researcher Brene Brown shares that vulnerability is our ability to tell our true story and not to fear rejection. Moreover, it’s the understanding of ourselves as imperfect that makes us brave. Vulnerability enables connection more than anything else. 

8. Choose curiosity over confidence anyday. Live with a questioning mind and you'll never believe where you go. 

9. Accept that you can do everything perfect and fail and you can everything wrong and succeed. Life isn't fair, it's the plain truth, some get lucky and some don't. It's up to us to let the journey guide us..and learn from it.

10. When looking for great people, choose hunger and excitement over experience. Never choose people who think they are 'doing you a favor.' Find people who are excited to work with you. 

11. Don't wait to ask, to test and incubate new ideas. Read Why Asking is your #1 Strategy for Success for more. 

12. Don’t Ask for a No. When you think something is the right thing to do, just do it. You don't need approval from anybody, just you.

Which of these traits are most important to you? 

Monday Inspiration: Aristotle

Happiness depends upon ourselves.

 

What's one thing you can do today to be happy? 

 

Happiness lies in your hands!

 

Why Asking can be your #1 Strategy for Success

When I first launched my business, the first month was super tough. I was trying to build partnerships and had just graduated from Harvard and MIT. People still saw me as a student, not as a full fledged professional. 

When I asked for referrals and leads from thought leaders and friends, I got some great intros but I also found many hesitant without knowing exactly what I had to offer. I totally get it, it takes time for referrals to really happen.

Instead of waiting on others, I had to show what I offered first myself. I decided to approach some of my dream clients on my own-I approached over ten Fortune 500 executives, and almost every single one responded and followed up with me. Some led to full fledged projects, others led to just a phone chat to stay in touch. The truth is that: I learned more by reaching out than stepping back. I didn’t wait till a friend told me I was ready or introduced me.

We live in a world where it's easy to be fearful to ask for ways to help.  Obviously we must be prepared, informed and ready to be thoughtful about our ask. The same situation occurs all the time in many areas, when we wait to get in touch, to reach out, to CONNECT for projects, idea generation, brainstorms, campaigns or startups.

We must connect, and by connecting we ignite change and prosper over the long term.  This is the key principle in my own work on connectional intelligence as the key agent to generating breakthrough capacity in organizations and the world. Asking can be the #1 Strategy for Success for every leader of the future.

Who is one person that you’ve been dying to connect with, but just haven’t had the courage to reach out to on your own? First, reflect on WHY you want to get in touch with them. Then, reach out and set up a meeting. You NEVER know what it could lead to. And let me know what happens!

 

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Monday Inspiration: Nic Askew

"Perhaps our deepest fear is that we don't belong to the "tribe". That we're separate. And perhaps it's this fear that drives us to "be a certain way" in order to belong. And compels us to hide what we believe to be imperfect."

Nic Askew, soulbiographies.com/

What are you hiding for its imperfections?

How to Get Motivated At Work

Have you ever tried to “get motivated” at the office—but nothing works? You start to feel terrible, like you’re falling behind in your business or career. You’re bored, lethargic, and you don’t want to meet up with your friends because you don’t want to talk about what you’ve been doing. (Or, more accurately, what you haven’t been doing.)

I’ve totally been there, too, and I’ve felt the frustration that comes from a lack of motivation at work.

But I’ve also got some good news. There are some key things that contribute to your work being motivating (or not), and once you recognize them, you have the power to redesign your workday in a way that gets you moving.

Here are five things you should make sure you’re getting out of your day-to-day tasks—and if you’re not, the changes you can make to jump start your motivation.

1. Task Identity

Work is most motivating when it’s clear what, exactly, you’re accomplishing. Think about it: How great does it feel when you know you’ve gotten a launch off the ground or made great progress on big project? On the other hand, nothing is worse than working all day and thinking “What did I even do today?!”

If you’re feeling like you’ve been spinning your wheels, try this: At the end of each day or week, make a “Got Done” list (the opposite of to the to-do list!), where you outline all of the tasks you’ve completed. For extra motivation, keep it somewhere you can see.

2. Task Significance

Another key to staying motivated is knowing that the work you’re doing makes a difference in some way—recognizing the impact you’re making on your clients, company, or the world.

If you’re not totally seeing this connection, try to dig deep. You could map your weekly sales reports to the increase in your company’s bottom lines or sales unit, for example. Or, say a key metric your company tracks is customer acquisition cost. Make a list of the tasks you do that reduce this cost for your company, and find ways to focus on those aspects of your job more often.

3. Skill Variety

Feel like you’re doing the same old repetitive work, day after day? It’s not so stimulating, to say the least. But when you’re engaging lots of different skill sets—that’s fantastic for your motivation.

Try to structure your days so that you’re working on different tasks (and thus, making use of different skills) throughout the day. For example, instead of writing all day on Monday and then building your client presentations on Tuesday, try to do both in smaller three-hour chunks each day. When you stimulate different parts of the brain, your motivation will be recharged.

4. Feedback

One of the most motivating factors you can have is getting feedback on your work. Not only for the ego boost you get when you’ve done a good job, but because the right feedback can help you hone your skills even further. It can also help you see the difference that your work is making. On the contrary, if you don’t know how you’re performing, it’s easy to lose steam.

If you find that you’re in a black hole of feedback, ask your manager, or even a colleague, for standing check-in meetings every one or two weeks. Let her know that you’d like to use the time to check in on your projects, and that you’d love honest feedback on where you could improve.

5. Autonomy

Finally, this is a big one: having autonomy in your job. Now, this doesn’t mean that you always get to do what you want—it just means you get a domain of choice about how you’re doing things.

For example, say you need to secure three more clients for the month. It’s much more motivating to be able to determine how to do that on your own—perhaps you want to build your online presence, or perhaps you enjoy building relationships offline. Sure, in the corporate world, there are plenty of things that have to be done a certain way—but there are also plenty of places where you can ask your boss for more autonomy.

And that brings me to my final point: Unless you work for yourself, you probably don’t have the power to totally rewrite your job description. But what you can do is communicate with your manager. You can identify the skills you want to develop, ask for feedback more often, probe for clarification when tasks are not clearly identified or seem insignificant, or ask to take on different tasks or have more autonomy on a project.

More than likely, you’ll be able to change something about your workload. And not only will you be more motivated—your boss will be impressed you've taken the initiative.

So what’s getting in the way of you being motivated at work? Find out, and then find a solution.

This post first appeared at Daily Muse.

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You are who you walk with

Some people think that in order to make change you need to influence the community you are already apart of. But sometimes, what is more important is to first find your own community instead that will help YOU change first.

When I left my life on Wall Street , to pursue my creative life as an entrepreneur, I felt there was something missing in my life—a curated network of teammates, cheerleaders, and geniuses that were on the same path as me. I found myself surrounded by a lot of people that were living a different life than me.

When I left the academic world at Harvard, I deeply missed the intellectual buzz of my classmates, the constant questioning, but I realized that I was also a changed person now. And in order to cultivate my tribe now –I needed to build a new base again. I was not letting go of who was important from my past, but I was honoring who I am now.

Gina Rudan, author of Practical Genius writes about how at different points of your life, you need to shift the balance of people in your life from ‘just because’ to ‘on purpose.’ Throughout our life stages, we must raise the bar and build our networks with others who are living purposeful, inspired lives that match our values as we grow.

Who are the people you surround yourself with? Do they add to your life and to your story?

Remember –you become like the five people you spend the most time with –and you can choose this deliberately for yourself. You need to curate your own community. You are who you walk with.

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Davos: Where are the women, again?

As CEOs, celebrities, and champagne covers the snowy streets of Davos this week for the 2013 World Economic Forum, the media is enjoying its own spin on the world’s most exclusive event. While the mix of people at the event is slowly changing with the rise of World Economic Young Leaders, Global Shapers and technology entrepreneurs, there is one population that remains quite the same—the overwhelmingly low ratio of women to men at the event and the whispers of the quota system in the air.

With women still only making up only 17 percent of Davos, we are moving closer but we are not moving fast enough. There is still a long way to go.

This week in Huffington Post I share some facts about quotas as "controlled experiments" and what it might look like in the future. Read the full article here.

How are you tackling quotas in your workplace? Do you have strategies to recruit a pool of diverse talent—diversity of backgrounds, experience and ideas? We might not be able to change Davos, but we can change our own teams and companies to generate better ideas, leaders, products and services.

You have to talk the walk

In today's age of innovation and networks, to step out of the unknown and to move into spaces of impact, you need to let yourself be seen, for who you really are, regardless of what happens. For me, the most important aspect of any life practice is whether I walk the talk. I must embody my work and make sure I truly live what I am teaching.

But recently productivity guru David Allen reminded me that I need to embody the reverse of this statement just as much: I have to talk the walk.

What does "talk the walk" mean? Well–do you tell people what you are doing and why you are doing it? Do you share your story and why it matters to you and connect with others? Are you intentional about branding yourself in relation to the conversation people have about you? We can't live out our greatest aspirations unless we are telling people what we have to offer first.

So if you are fundraising for your nonprofit, selling a gamechanging product, or advocating for a cause, make sure you talk the walk. Remember its just as important as walking the talk. 

Monday Inspiration: Steven Pressfield

The more important a call or action is to our soul’s

evolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward

pursuing it. –Steven Pressfield, Do the Work

What are you resisting?

Let your fear go in 2013: A podcast on my time with Seth Godin

One of my priorities for success is to be a lifelong student and spend time with leaders I resonate with.

Fear is one of the largest roadblocks to success. One year ago, I was forced to face my greatest fear — not accepting "no" for an answer when I knew I had more to offer.

Back in December 2011, marketing guru Seth Godin was hosting his well-known Medicine Ball retreat for an elite group of 60 entrepreneurs to jumpstart their creativity. I applied and was originally rejected. Today, I want to share how I responded, got personally invited to Medicine Ball the same day, and made an major shift in my career afterwards. There is something incredibly powerful about spending time with people you love to learn from and it's even more valuable when you know you overcame fear to make it happen.

Here's a special podcast I did with fellow attendee Aaron McHugh on my journey letting fear go and choosing a life of impact.

In this podcast, I share: 

  • Why you should stop asking for permission from others
  • Choosing a life of impact instead of following the herd.
  • The power of unleashing human potential.
  • How I got into Seth Godin’s Medicine Ball session after I was rejected.

Download the MP3 Podcast here.