How to Have Great Conversations

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Have you ever tried to ask a really smart question? Have more meaningful conversations? I've totally been there.

Warren Buffet says that the number one key to success is communication skills and having conversations that show your curiousity, ambition, and expertise.

Communication skills increase your capital value by 50% in four areas: generosity, initiative, forward momentum, and transparency. Here are 4 ways to have great conversations:

1) Master the Hello and Goodbye: First, ask someone if they have a moment to speak. If they can't, thank them and create forward momentum. Instead of simply saying "Great speaking with you" or "I'll keep you posted on additional opportunities," establish yourself as professional and courteous and ask them "How can I follow up with you?"

2) Ask for Help (and sound smart while you do it): Be enthusiastic and ask for specific resources and guidance that will help you do your job better. When facing a challenge, ask, "do you have a template I should follow or people I should speak with?"

3) Get Feedback: Don't wait for the 6 month review to get feedback–ask your manager how he or she is feeling about your progress and what could be done differently. For a good script on asking for feedback, download my free Leadership Library below, with scripts, tools, and guidebooks.

4) Answer a Question (even if you aren't sure of the answer): There are plenty of ways to answer a question without lying or overtalking. Use your knowledge and experiences to add to the conversation. Someone else may build on your answer, giving you a chance to learn from another perspective.

What are other practices you use to have great conversations? 

5 Life Changing Decisions You Can Take Now

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Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Decisions are commitments. They are commitments to live one way versus another. They often require tradeoffs, pain, joy, and challenge. Making tough decisions is the core of leadership. Here are 5 life changing decisions you can take now.

1) Choose a life of impact over a social life. It's harder but you won't regret it.  It’s a choice. They aren’t mutually exclusive of course, but sometimes we need to make a choice between the "important, long-term" mission and the "short, fun" event or initiative.

2) Take responsibility, not authority. There is a big difference between authority and responsibility. Authority is a form of control, responsibility is a form of influence.

3) Don't stop engaging in the arts. What brings us laughter, song, dance and joy are what brings us vitality, happiness and innovation. What is the next artistic challenge you will take on? Mine is Haitian Dance!

4) Create the optimal filters. Sometimes advice is the exact opposite of what you need to transform. Questions from a select few may do the trick.

5) Practice self-love. Be your own best friend. When we stop being hard on ourselves and trust our intentions, we create space for more love and gratitude around us. 

8 Ways to Avoid Being Overwhelmed

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You know the feeling. You start to feel terrible, like you’re falling behind in your business or career and not being productive at all. Time & Productivity out of whack? Yeah, I’ve totally been there too.

The biggest myth about productivity isn’t about tips, its about focusing on what you really want to do. . But it involves finding ways to do things more efficiently on everyday basis.

There are some simple tools to make it happen—when you try for yourself. Here are my Top 7 Key Productivity Tools:

1)    Never log onto Facebook or Twitter the first thing in the day. The night before, think of the two things that must get done and write those down. When you get them done, you’ll feel productive.

2)    Make a “Do Less” List: Steve Jobs told his management team—we need to do less, not more. Provoke your company or organization to do less by noticing what you’ll do less of each month.

3)    Check your email three times a day..MAX. Stop checking email so much. You know what I’m talking about.

4)    Use Boomerang. Schedule your messages so you can be more available and accessible and reach people at the best time.

5)    Use Rapportive. Pull up social networks in the sidebar of your gmail account.  It will show you their Linked in profile, last 5 tweets, and their Facebook page. A quick way to connect with others.

6)    Use Google Voice. Sends text message transcription of the voicemails you receive to your email.  

7)    Use Evernote. Hands down—a super productive online tool to organize your files, notes, and top articles.

8)    Try Instapaper. Want to save articles so you can read them later? Instapaper is your answer!

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